Ladies, know your worth.

By Esther Rachel Lai. - 11/22/2016

I cannot emphasise enough on the need for a woman to know her self-worth. Knowing how to value yourself isn't just crucial for your own being but also, for the relationships that you will foster (or bridges you will burn) and the people you invite into your life. Here's why it's important for a woman to know what she's worth.

You can't expect people to respect you if you don't respect yourself.

They say respect goes two ways and that you got to give respect to gain respect. But what people don't realise is that respect also starts with yourself. If you want others to respect you for who you are, you have to first respect yourself. Nobody is going to respect you if you don't respect yourself, period.

Not knowing your worth might get you the wrong kind of relationships.

Girls being girls, we often fall for men who know all the right things to say to sweep us off our feet (bad boys, players or even men who are attached) and this is where knowing your worth comes into play. A woman who values herself knows how to guard her heart and not give it away or lose herself to just any man that comes along with a honeyed tongue. Knowing your self-worth also means knowing not to settle for anything less than what you deserve or shortchange yourself to allow being "played". Don't devalue yourself over cheap words and cheap thrills where you'll end up having your heartbroken or worse being the "other woman" - Yes, cheaters shouldn't get to see the light of day but cheaters are only allowed to cheat as much as the other woman lets him (which brings me to my next point).

When you value yourself, you'll know how to say "No" to things that are not good for you.

Whether it's a career choice or a toxic relationship, a woman who knows her worth can put her feet down to say "No" to the things that are detrimental to herself or things that just aren't worth her time. This means knowing how to make the right decisions for yourself and knowing when to get out of a bad one. When you know what you're worth, you'll also come to realise what you don't want/need in your life. Respect yourself enough to say "No" and walk away.

You don't need to seek assurance from elsewhere.

Having a good sense of self-worth enables you to affirm yourself and not turn to the wrong kind of things to make you feel worthy (i.e. alcohol, substance-use, wrong relationships, extreme diets etc.) Beauty comes from and emanates from within. When you love yourself, it shows from the inside out so find that assurance within yourself and the world will come to value you for who you are.

Self-worth brings about confidence.

And confidence, as we can all agree, is attractive. Similarly, confidence can also repel negative attention because people will get the vibe that you're not one to be trifled with. So if you want to attract the right kind of people into your life, work on yourself, know your worth, have confidence and naturally, the right people will come along.

Most of all, knowing how to value yourself will help you to empower other women as well.

The beauty of realising your worth is that it doesn't just stop there. Only when you love and value yourself then will you be able to help and empower the people around you. It takes a strong woman to help another woman out so don't devalue yourself. Instead, rise above. Rise above yourself, above your insecurities and don't settle for anything or anyone less than what you deserve because you are worth more than you think you are.


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